I’ve been running across a lot of quotes on love and relationships recently. And, while at first read they seem sweet or reassuring, or even good advice, they actually aren’t. They’re instead over-simplifying a phenomenon (i.e., relationships) that has been evolving and growing and changing and staying the same for centuries; something people have been trying to define for eons.
It’s too simple. And too one-sided most of the time.
‘Cause, the thing is . . . You can’t love those you care about so much that you yourself are last on your list of priorities. And you can’t love yourself so much that you always put yourself over others as a priority either.
One is self-detrimental, and the other is selfish.
In truth, when we act out such extremes, it is often neither healthy nor right. Rather, we usually need to find a balance between the two — which is a lifelong process of thinking, adjusting the intensity levels on various factors, and always learning . . .
Which is why a single, one-sided quote on the subject, while comforting, generally makes us lean towards either being a doormat or being an ass.
Neither will work for a healthy relationship in the long run. And we’re all fooling ourselves if we think it’s that simple or that easy.
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